- It is better to vent anger and self-pity throughout the duration of one's life than to save it all up for death.
Unfortunately, as much harm is done either way.
- The grieving process is very important for human health.
One never feels grief for the departed - but for oneself. One never feels pity and compassion for the departed - but for oneself.
Do not take grief lightly, for not only will it cause you to be reborn as an "animal", but you will cause the departed to share your plight. Together as animals you will continually fight each other for what you have done to each other. How do I know this? By looking!
By no means am I telling you to avoid grief. Delusion cannot be contained or hidden. Rather, you must seek the causes of grief and attachment, and destroy them at the root. Love has much to answer for!