How big?
I hear people say: "We are too big to see the small things." They make themselves smaller. But I say to you: we are too small to see the big things!
Power
We don't mind being used - it's feeling used we object to. A worker doesn't mind being the slave of the company, as long as he gets paid enough. A prostitute or a model doesn't feel "used" by her paying clients. In relationships, "sharing" means letting people use you as much as you use them - yet we do not feel "used". On the contrary, we gain power by serving another.
Submission doesn't make one weaker, but stronger. It is not a passive giving-in or giving-up, but an active decision to follow a different course - the course of another. This is why it is useless to criticize people for being submissive: they experience only the winning of power.
Positive thinking is the evil spirit behind it all. It renders us unaware of the contradictory nature of our lives, and makes slaves believe they are gods. An heroic soldier imagines he has personal freedom and control over his life, yet his whole life is spent following somebody else's orders. This is because he feels he has chosen to submit his will. Such a pitiful state of affairs!