The good man in love
He converts everything she says into his sphere, to make meaning of it, which is beyond her meaning and understanding.
He keeps his love at a distance, therapeutic only, to let deluded tendencies run their course, harmlessly exhausting themselves. He never believes for a moment that he loves her: he loves love itself. He actively avoids situations with the woman where his ego might be aroused to a level where he would lose his perspective - the perspective of a psychologist. He must remain in control.
He sees his love as a fork in the road, where he is forced to choose between the world and God. For it is here, in love, that the two opposites are best thrown into sharp relief and opposition.
How cruel he seems! - when his wisdom is young - using a girl as an experimental animal! One minute he overflows with emotional passion, and the next he is in distant intellectual thought. So it is when the ego is in its death throes, having a last fling at life, wanting to know if it is still possible.
And how the girl must pain! It is as though she had been given a gift, and then having it taken from her for her own good.
Yet how could it be otherwise, when he is twenty five winters old, and she, twenty summers.