Also amazing is the belief that we can avoid possessiveness in love. All too often I hear it said: "Love by all means, but avoid the curse of attachment!" Agh! As if love and attachment were two separate things! How I am tried! Don't you know that love is attachment, and is therefore the embodiment of possessiveness? Don't you know that your loved one becomes your alter-body, your alter-mind, and your alter-self? And just as you would feel possessive of your own eyes if a stranger tried to take them, one feels possessive of love. How little we would enjoy our love if love was not itself attachment! We would need no lover, and when there is no need there is no caring, no enjoyment, and no purpose for any relationship.