Q: You can't make others change.
A: You don't like the idea that others can make you change. You like to feel in control of your life. You imagine yourself to be like a God, untouched by the world, creating from nothing, and in control of your own destiny. Yet Nature controls every aspect of your life, and Nature dictates that others will make you change. Do parents give the child a choice whether or not to go to school? No! The parents make the child go to school. So do the wise make others come to see the truth.
Q: But people have their own individual karma they have to follow. You cannot create causes for their change.
A: Who said anything about creating causes? I follow my own individual karma, and that is to make others change. You see, you have to be very careful about this concept of "individual karma". It is merely a category used for convenience of communication, and has no other reality. Therefore, there is no individual karma or group karma. You must abandon all such concepts, other than for practical use. You must first learn to see the formless aspect of karma before you can see all its other aspects.
Q: Are you enlightened?
A: If I speak the truth and put it into practice, then I am one who is enlightened.